Lonely people are the happiest in the world. Not everyone wants to be in a serious relationship or stay with people all the time. In fact, some people do feel more satisfied being free from relationships.
Reasons people stay lonely
The reasons people stay lonely can be different due to their country of residence, bad experiences, way of thinking, etc.
- Incompatibility. The set of qualities that people look for in a partner are not so common. If a person is outwardly cute, this does not mean that he is compatible with you in character.
- Independence. People are used to doing everything on their own. Although they are not used to being helped, they would still like to have someone to help from time to time, but self-sufficiency dulls the team living.
- Low self-esteem. We all have “inner voices” that tell us that we are too fat, too ugly, too old, or too different. When we listen to these “voices,” we exhibit behaviors that turn people off.
- No time. I just don’t have the strength to go out often and meet new people. An important reason for the loneliness of young people is that they are so busy at work that they do not have time for relationships.
- Relationships are not needed. It’s simple, many do not need a person next to them for happiness. Unfortunately, from childhood, we are taught that without a life partner we are inferior, ignoring the individual preferences of a person.
However, regardless of the above common motives, one of the most important reasons is heavy economic pressure.
Heavy workloads, fewer social opportunities, and a high cost of living are common problems for most singles under 35.
Some scholars believe that marriage is a form of economic union in which the couple’s earnings after marriage exceed the sum of their individual earnings before marriage. This theory can be applied to the generation of our parents when marriage was the main option. However, today’s rapidly changing society has changed the mindset of young people, increasing the pressure. The growing number of single people is driving the economy as the temptations grow and they are willing to pay for amenities and spend money on hobbies.
Loneliness is becoming a trend
From a global perspective, being lonely is not weird.
According to statistics, 45% of Americans, 32.4% of Japanese, 30.6% of Russians, 23.9% of South Koreans and 15% of Chinese are unmarried.
In addition, young people today are getting married at an older age than 30 years ago: in the 80s married couples were formed at 21-24 years old, today at 27-30 years old.
What we are not told about living alone?
Many of us have been taught from a young age that there is something bad and unnatural to be alone. Therefore, we acquire roommates or strive for a serious relationship. But we were never taught that living alone is normal.
Living alone is when you can plan your own life without being distracted by others. This is when you decide how best to live your life without worrying about how others will react to your decision. This is a special time in your life, and it needs to be accepted, and not seen as a shameful stage that you just need to go through.
Yes, sometimes you can get lonely. And sometimes you will be jealous of those around you who live a family life. But you need to use your free time in such a way that they envy you: enjoy loneliness, travel, develop, make new acquaintances. Just be yourself, regardless of marital status, and do not allow anyone to change the lifestyle that you have chosen for happiness.